Well, I can say with much confidence that most men in the East don't have to fear the possibility you mentioned, given that they are the bread-winners, the ones that support women on their shoulders.  Hence the reason why it is men who take on multiple spouses, and not women.  With regard to romantic love, it simply CANNOT provide the foundation for any long-lasting marriage by itself. People eventually grow sick of one another after spending most of their adult life together. That's a fact as certain as death.   So be smart and get into a union with someone who can provide for your needs, and those of your future children, someone who can be depended upon for more than roses


And sometimes I find myself questioning the worth of the phenomenon known as the Working Mother. When these women loose themselves completely in their high-flying careers,  I find myself worrying for the emotional well-fare of their children. A mother needs to understand where her first priority should lie

I do realize of course, that it is important to choose someone with whom you can get along reasonably well, if not for your sake, then at least for the children's.  My main point of contention is that to make any decision based on feelings of mutual attraction alone would be suicide. After all, you would agree with me that by allowing yourself to be romanced into marrying someone who is unable to provide you and your future children with the fundamentals required for a comfortable life, you would be doing both yourself and them a disservice.

The thing is, if you really do love someone and have a strong working relationship with them you will make it work to provide for your family.  For example, I would never marry a man I didn't love and wasn't going to until I die, but in order for me to do that they would have to be willing to provide for the family first.  True romantic love does not die over the years, my parents are a perfect example of that.  People don't have to get sick of each other just as good friends don't.  Lust dies, attraction merely to appearance dies, lack of communication will make something die, as will lack of honesty.  If both party members are willing and actively working to make themselves better, compromising for their partner, learning about one another, and telling the truth of how they feel this can continue into a life-long relationship and they will raise a good family as well.  Money does not make a good family.  Some of the best I know are quite poor, but they have morals and a strong family connection.  Parents that love each other and love their kids make the best combination.  They'll do what it takes to survive and come out on top.  Money alone without the love is pointless and often makes a horrible life for their children.  Parents that love each other and have a healthy relationship let the kids grow up to be the same way.

And as far as working moms...well, I'd say at a certain age, it's a bad idea.  However, as the kids grow older either the mother or father can stay at home and keep with the kids from time to time.  After all, a big problem is kids feeling distant from their fathers because they're at work all the time.  And then later the kids go to school, so it is perfectly reasonable(and a good idea) for both parents to work.  This will also give female children the opportunity to see that they can be better than the media image of sexuality all around them.  If I have a girl, she'll be raised on science, math, American Girl dolls, fantasy, sci-fi, and anything that she finds interest in.  As a woman who is going down a path as an engineer, I know how difficult it is without the proper upbringing, which consists of a strong female figure  and a father who encourages their daughter to pursue the intellectual.

I apologize for any typos and nonsensical sentences in advance.  I wrote that pretty quickly because I feel strongly about it now that I've gotten into a working relationship that looks like it will be very long term.  I had my eyes opened to the families around me and their workings and how that in turn affected their kids.

Precisely, which goes to show that appearances doesn't matter.

So I wasn't wrong all along.

Meh. i know the feelin Chronos. my amigas used to come to to me when they got dumped. the most scrwed up ones were when you know the guy personally and s**t like this happens after a relativly long relationship  it gets even sadder when you're a hopeless romantic yer self and everyone seems to be getting a relationship while you are stuck reading fanfictions because you have yer heart set on someone and can't bear to try your luck on someone else. because of multiple stupid reasons........... ok . nevermind.


Super late pointless post.

BTW. what happened to phyrrestar anyway?